Thursday, January 06, 2011

Life Is Not About The Hand We are Dealt. Life is How We Play The Game!

Every new year I decide there are things  that I am going to do that I believe will improve my life, give me greater understanding and depth of character! It never happens!
This year I didn't even write them down. I realized that I was a week into the new year and I had done none of the things that I told myself I would do.So why bother to write them down.  What's more I discovered I didn't really care that I had not done any of these things so either I am getting very old or I am already developing some greater understanding and it is beginning to improve my life.

The things that we push ourselves to do each year and the self examination that we go through have started  to  seem  so negative to me. Sure ... the year sucked but there was not much I could have done differently. Maybe it was just bad star alignment??? What ever it was my writing down some resolutions that I can look back on at the end of 2011 and chastise myself for not fulfilling is not going to make the year any better.
All we can do at the end of the day is be ourselves and do our best. We are are the sum total of all that we have experienced and learned in life. The good and the bad.   Ultimately we are who we are and knowing who we are and what is of value to us is what will get us through the good times with great joy and the bad times with fortitude .
Carl Jung said "the word happy would lose it's meaning if it were not balanced by sadness". Really ... isn't that what life is all about?  Finding some happiness in every day and knowing what happiness is because you have experienced some sadness.


  1. Anonymous5:52 AM

    I read this and its feeling that you posted my thoughts.....Very likely year was for me....

  2. I do not bother to come up with resolutions any more. Resolutions can happen any time of the year, it doesn't take a special date to make them more easily done. Making a resolution and sticking to it is also not helped by writing it down. The resolution is made in the brain. You can write it down a zillion times but if you haven't really made the decision to do it, writing it down isn't going to make it magically happen.

    I've decided I want to be happy. Bad things will always happen, but I want to be happy. I want to notice the happy things and celebrate them. I want to wake up in the morning and feel happy at a new day. I want to go to bed at night feeling happy that it was a good day. I want to be positive and hopeful and cheery even when I think I can't. I'm doing it anyway.

    So I'm putting on a happy face and taking a step forward. Come with me!

  3. Lorelei, you and I will make it through this year together and be stronger and happier for it.
    Tomorrow my first radiation and I promise you I will find something to smile about when I get up tomorrow morning!

  4. Annoymous - I hope that you have a great 2011!

  5. If 2011 sucks, it's NOT YOUR FAULT. ;-)